Cristina → LF — Flagged Messages

#	Timestamp	Message	Flag(s)
1	5/15/2023 1:34:14 PM	Hi Lisa, I just wanted to express my gratitude for your unconditional love through the good times and the tough times. Chris and I share such a deep and unshakable love for each other, we are each other’s best friend. It feels good to know that we have you both and my parents in our corner cheering us on through life. I apologize for any misunderstandings of our past and want us us all to be close because family means everything to me. I pray for Kelly every day because I truly love her like a sister and I feel that her decisions to not want to be around people who aren’t Catholic is really extreme and not realistic, especially for the babies as they will have to interact with people of all different faiths in the real world. I could never express this to her because she’d cut me off completely. The Catholic faith is very beautiful and has called me back when I felt lost. I think it’s peoples interpretations of the scripture that tarnish the beauty of it sometimes. We’re not meant to discriminate against others who may have a slightly different view. I’m sorry this is happening, but I feel it in my heart that this too shall pass. As a mom my heart hurts for you, but know that we love you unconditionally and you always have us.	Blame/accusation pattern
2	6/1/2023 8:47:03 PM	Chris and I are watching HGTV adding funny commentary: “stop lying, that’s not how it works” haha	Direct lie accusation
3	6/20/2023 2:45:16 PM	I know! You never know what you have until it’s gone haha	Blame/accusation pattern
4	3/7/2024 7:30:37 PM	Thank you!!!	Aggressive punctuation (!!!/??)
5	7/23/2024 6:13:15 PM	Lisa!!! Thank you so very much for the Epsom salts. I just came downstairs with Cruz and Chris told me.	Aggressive punctuation (!!!/??)
6	8/24/2024 4:10:43 PM	Yay!!! Thank you so much!	Aggressive punctuation (!!!/??)
7	10/27/2024 8:58:27 PM	This is what I’m talking about, this type of rhetoric is bigotry, disgraceful and disgusting and that’s not even going into detail about the appalling things he said about my people. I have zero tolerance for it! Or to be around anyone who entertains that. What kind of Christians support this?	Demeaning/Insult
8	10/27/2024 9:01:18 PM	Oh and there’s more, “lovely” it gets even more disgusting but I’ll leave you with this. Very Christian nice morals	Demeaning/Insult
9	10/27/2024 9:03:14 PM	This dumbass doesn’t even realize that Puerto Ricans are US citizens	Demeaning/Insult
10	6/25/2025 7:07:00 AM	Chris was making up stuff because I was documenting the verbally abusive things he was saying to me when I said all I’m asking is that you communicate where you’re taking the baby so I know where he’s going to be all day and that he’s safe? He said “no I’m I’m not doing that all you need to know is that he’s with me I said, as Cruz’s mom I need to know where my baby is, then he proceeds to say “why?” I say, Because I’m his mom, I carried him for 9 months, then he says “congratulations you’re a woman who gives a fuck? He’s probably safer with me anyway.” He’s trying to bait into an argument. Then I say, How could that be when you don’t feed him, bathe him, wake him up from his nap, play with him or change him without my guidance and instructions? He continued saying more crazy and out of pocket things that were hurtful, because I said I’d be documenting these verbally abusive things, at that moment he decided to call you. All I said prior was “If you’re going to keep cursing at me and verbally abusing me I don’t want you in our bed.” Those were some serious allegations Chris was making yesterday, I know he had mental health issues and has schizoaffective disorder and that could’ve been some sort of break down but I don’t want any part of that, those lies and that level of defamation of character could ruin lives. I called my parents as witnesses and they could not believe what he was saying or the false accusations he was making. They asked me to lock my door, and keep the kids safe. I just want to get through this peacefully and amicably. A man wouldn’t behave like this and treat his wife like that if he loved his family. Chris is acting like a 37 year old man child and I’ve been putting up with this for years. I don’t think we can come back from this. In the meantime, I just want peace and stability for my boys.	Profanity/InsultCharacter attack
11	8/8/2025 9:16:30 PM	Lisa, I tried calling first. I just wanted you to know I came home from work and Jacob came to me and said he was hungry and hadn’t eaten and felt neglected all day. I spoke to Chris calmly about it advising that even with 12 year olds, you have to check on them he’s not 18. Chris got really defensive and said “he’s fucking old enough to advocate for himself, and proceeded to say that I’m a liar, when I’ve never lied about anything. If anything Chris lied to me on day one about how truly unstable and severe his mental illness is. He continued to say that his whole family thinks I’m a liar and doesn’t like me at all etc. I’ve never lied about anything I have no reason to. When I asked for an example he couldn’t give me one when I have countless on his end. He’s calling me vile names projecting his insecurities onto me, saying I have multiple personality disorder, when I have none of these things. He’s clearly projecting. He’s disrespectful to me in front of the kids. I was trying to have a civil conversation and he kept yelling and playing video games. All I was saying and nicely is that even with 12 year olds you have to check on them. He made awful remarks about my parenting with Jacob saying I’m a helicopter parent and a bad mom, and other curse words and put downs. I can’t have a simple conversation with him without him going from 0 to 100 and saying terrible things to me. I’m really unhappy. I’m falling out of love with him. He’s always going after my character and making me feel bad about myself when I feel bad about choosing him. I can’t have anything good happen to me because he says it’s the “Cristina show” he dims my light, he’s so insecure and not supportive. He’s not proud of me, he doesn’t appreciate me, he says I’m a drama queen when I cry or express any emotion. I can’t talk to him or have any constructive feedback or he’ll blow up. I can’t live like this.	Profanity/InsultBetrayal accusation
12	8/29/2025 3:42:32 PM	Hi Lisa, I’m calling because I came home and the garage was open I told Chris about being mindful about closing it, he’s been leaving the door unlocked and the garage open frequently and I’ve been really nice about it, but today he snapped at me I just wanted him to know repeatedly doing that is not safe and leaves us in a very vulnerable position it’s happened over a dozen times. Especially the door. He’s used this against me and threatened not to go to my Abuela’s house this Saturday and she called to personally invite him, he hasn’t been showing up for me. I ask him to do simple tasks like take out the trash and clean our shower today, so that I can tackle the laundry and kitchen etc. along with grad school and grading papers but nothing gets done. He binge watches shows and plays video games. I’m so glad Skip told him to check on unemployment I’ve been telling him this for weeks! He ignores me. Today Cruz had a really soiled diaper that looked like he’d been sitting in for a long time it made me cry. I’m going to the grocery store to buy some essentials to make dinner. I thought I’d call for advice. Just when I think things are getting better he’s so hostile and over sensitive to any constructive feedback it’s like walking on egg shells. He wants to visit that guy Ben again, the gay man I was telling you about with the significantly younger partner to supposedly discuss another business plan instead of visiting my grandma with us who wants to see the boys because she’s getting up there, who he said over the phone when he was talking to her he would visit this time. I just don’t know what do anymore. My family loves him and wants to spend time with him especially my grandma, now I have to explain why he won’t show up again.	Fear/intimidation
13	10/6/2025 9:21:17 PM	Lisa, I want to be open with you because I know you care about our family. Things aren’t working out with Chris right now—not just because of the financial issues, but because of deeper emotional ones. I don’t feel considered, appreciated, or loved by him, even though I work hard and make sacrifices for our family. He doesn’t show up for my family’s events, yet expects me to be present for his. Recently, I spoke with a mental health counselor because I needed some clarity. I told her how Chris had been so loving around our anniversary and his birthday, when I celebrated him and made an effort to show my love—only for him to quickly shift back to resentment over a past memory. One day he wanted a divorce, the next he was affectionate again, and then he changed his mind once more. The emotional backand-forth has been painful and confusing. The counselor helped me understand that these patterns can be part of his schizoaffective mood disorder, which she said can resemble bipolar disorder with its highs and lows. Unfortunately, Chris is in denial about his symptoms, and whenever I try to talk about it, it turns into emotional turmoil. Over the years, it’s gotten worse, and I’m the one left managing the fallout. For my own mental health—and for the well-being of our boys, especially little Cruz—I have to make choices that protect our peace. Chris needs to make a conscious effort to be self-aware, to take accountability when he’s wrong, and to grow into the role of a mature husband, father, and provider. I’ve reached a point where I can’t carry it all alone anymore. I love you and I appreciate you but this sorrow has become too much to endure. No one understands. I go to church with the boys, I pray I try to keep the faith but I don’t know what else to do anymore. I don’t know if he’s met someone else, and is being unfaithful. I cry and he doesn’t seem to care. It’s all very heartbreaking. I don’t know if I can hang on any longer. I don’t think it’s healthy for me. My boys deserve a happy, healthy mommy.	Betrayal accusation
14	3/27/2026 10:40:14 PM	Hi Lisa, I’m incredibly hurt by these accusations and very upset. I would never do anything to hurt Chris. I am victim of abuse so I would never lay a hand on anyone. He’s accusing me of hitting him when awhile ago he called me “a fucking bitch” in front of Cruz and I tapped him on the back barely touched him and told him to stop cursing in front of Cruz. He’s also accusing me of causing division with him and his cousins when I never had any issues with them, other than some past political differences with maybe 1 member and that has been long resolved. I don’t feel like he went into counseling today to heal our marriage but to bring up past hurts and embellish the truth to the extreme, and not taking any responsibility for his actions. This marriage has no hope to heal, if he doesn’t take accountability for his part. He’s very cruel to me and when he has his psychotic breaks, he’s even more mean. He’s disrespectful towards me and I don’t want my boys growing up thinking it’s okay to treat and talk to their mother that way. I think had I known long before of his condition, not 4 days before our wedding his full diagnosis and how severe his mental illness truly is. Not the lies of him just having anxiety. His delusional perception of reality, the constant lies, I would have chosen differently. How can anyone tolerate being hurt like this over and over again? He’s constantly gaslighting me into thinking I don’t matter and my feelings aren’t valid, accusing me of having something wrong with me when he’s the one with the mental illness. The irony! I will no longer tolerate these delusions and being accused for things I did not do. Chris needs 24/7 care and assistance. He is unwell and that is too big of undertaking for me. I clip his nails and toes, worry about his overall health. This is affecting my health and overall wellbeing. If Chris and I don’t work out, promise me you’ll make sure he’s honest with the next one about his mental health illness, give her time to research, so she knows what she’s signing up for. This is not at all what I envisioned and I know I deserve a hardworking, loving husband who honors and respects me. I will not settle for anything less.	Profanity/InsultCharacter attack